I need not to say that the choice for stability is man’s second nature. We all like new things but as long at is containable. With time we build up things that we need to take care of like a house, mortgage, children and the list goes on. I am not making a judgment on this it is only that I don’t feel obliged to follow that route (yet).

Whenever you make a decision that is border crossing you can see the admiration in the eyes of people that sometimes feel stuck to the debt they owe. It is like is gives them a glance on things that might have been. A decision they did not pull through a long time ago and is now even less easy to make.

Bottom line: make sure that you don’t start starting into the distance when somebody reminds you of things you missed out in the past.

When I was a kid I always felt somewhere in between. When I was playing in one playground I did not really fit in because I was to much like those other kids playing in another neighbourhood. Then when I went playing in the other playground with those other kids I did not really fit in neither. Yes, because I was too much like the ones I mentioned before. I had really good friends in all the playgrounds I went and every time I turned up we all enjoyed the time together. So that is not the issue. I think the interest to search for something unknown and new was there. Those days I really did not think about it but it appears to me that I wanted to share the best of several “worlds” to my friends.

I was a member of two different scouts groups at the same time. That too gave rise to a lot of questions why I was into that other group. I guess I just wanted to enjoy the different ambiance in the groups. I tried lots of different sports (I stuck with athletics forever though) because I liked learning the techniques and the different kinds of activities.

During my years at university I really enjoyed getting a scientific education but at the same time I went to language courses during the evenings. I thought there is more than just left brain or right brain (not or but and). I had the luck to have the opportunity to go to study abroad for a longer period. I guess that really triggered my further decisions to gain international contacts. I got active in an international student organisation and got to know great people from all over Europe.

During my first professional experience I had the opportunity to develop a team. I am really humble in saying that I was a full-time learning experience. The urge to interact with people from other departments and to help the organisation grow did stick with me. I was the lighting match of an initiative that looks to the future of youngster in the organisation and the future of the organisation itself. The will to do a project abroad lingered though. Finally I got the opportunity I had worked for so hard. I am able to go on a mission in India and Middle East for at least a year. A year of pure entrepreneurship and personal challenges. I can say I am up to it even though I know I will encounter some humps along the road.

That is why I feel so good today. Really! So forgive me that I overused the “I” word in this post.

Bottom line: Just go for it!

It can happen to anyone. Before your day has been quite average but that suddenly changes into turmoil. Something big comes up and is trumpeting like a big parade on carnival’s day. The catch is that you need someone else to provide you a BIG favour in order to make it happen. How do you tackle it?

It is a possibility just to let it slide and let it pass by. You can just sit and not make it happen. The apparent advantage is that you don’t have to ask someone to do you a big favour. Your relationship with the person remains unhassled and you don’t make a fool out of yourself.

Another possibility is to grab your chances and take the blunt decision to ask someone to you a big favour. Psychologically it is a big hurdle to come over. How will the person react and will we keep a good relationship in the future. In my opinion, when you even consider about even having a relationship with that person asking a favour to someone from time to time is a must. The person you ask may even be flattered that you require his help. So it’s a double win: you try your chances and in the long run it will benefit your relationship with that person.

Bottom line: It is a classic. A NO you already have but a YES you can get. Go out and try your chances!