When you give people the time and possibility to explain what is important to them, you can get very different reactions. In my view there are two distinct reactions.
A first group really grabs the opportunity because they have their own opinions that they want to share with other people. Behind that lies a positive mindset: they want to show their true face to the listener. The behavior they talk about is a real reflection of the behavior they really exhibit.
A second group also grabs the opportunity but this time there’s a different driver behind that behavior. They want to enhance the good appearance they have. I talk about appearance because there is no real truth behind their words. Sometimes they just talk to the mouth of the listener and other times they push themselves up in spite of other people.
The ability to differentiate between these two kinds of drivers is not easily learned. I realise that it is a skill you learn by trial-and-error. But in my opinion you really develop some kind of instinct for it, call it a gutt feeling.
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Maarten